I took my kids to the art museum this week with my mother and brother. It was a fun time. During this time I thought about all the people and the people watching going on. What came to mind is the impact we may have on people while we are out and about that is not always taken into consideration.
It is important to always express your authentic self as a primary part of living a satisfying life. However, have you ever stopped to consider how your behavior in public impacts others observing you?
What if someone was making observations and conclusions about what parenting might be like? Perhaps what being in a relationship would be like? Sometimes people are making conclusions about what a certain person that looks a certain way is like by the way they see others interact in public.
Now are we responsible for these people’s lives and life choices? No of course not. But it does bring pause to say “Am I putting my best self out there? ” Maybe it gives us some motivation to smile a little more, be a little kinder, more patient, put a little more into having a polished appearance when you go out into the crowd. Because others are watching.
When we see people being gruff to one another it may have a negative effect on others. Is it really necessary to bring others down? Sometimes that “fake it until you make it” state of mind is what’s needed. All in all if you are giving your best, that’s all that can be reasonably asked of a person.
It is good to be the best you that you can be. Defining what that looks like is up to you. I remember having that “I don’t care what people think” type of an attitude. Yet, sometimes I wonder if the pendulum has swung too far in that direction. What’s wrong with putting a cordial, friendly attitude and a clean put together appearance out to the world?
Often when a person looks good, they feel good and exude confidence. That positive attitude can be contagious to everyone you meet and that is a good thing. Who knows your well-timed smile for one person might just change their life. That would make the small effort worth a lot.