Some songs throughout the ages, as well as poems and sonnets speak of a love so strong that someone says to another “I would die for you.” It is indeed a strong declaration of love, to place his or her life in harm’s way in order for one’s beloved to live. At the same time and in some ways a more grandiose gesture of love could be to say, “I will live for you.”
A promise to preserve health to the best of one’s ability and to say I will take care of my health so that I may be with you for many years to come when you need me most. I will live so that we can face what the world has to offer––good or bad, together. I will live for you.
There are challenges offered by life that can make living seem like more of a challenge than dying. Getting up everyday trying to figure out the little nuances of life, the questions of life like “Where’s the food going to come from today?” “How is the myriad of things that must be done going to get done?” This reality coupled with the stresses of life that can be so prevalent today that makes living for someone so much more of a declaration of love than dying for them.
This is not to take away from the awesome sacrifice made by a soldier or first responder. People that place themselves on the front-line to protect those they love or die for honor. Yet to forgo the indulgence of destructive vices and excessive behaviors rather than to fight for one’s health in order to be there for those you love when they need you most also holds the hero’s reward that comes with acts of courage and fortitude.
So, if you really love someone, perhaps saying “I’ll die for you” is not the greatest proclamation of love. Maybe that greatest oath of love a person can make is “I’ll live for you.”
Part eighteen in the A-Z series. R is for Romance.
What is the state of romance in the modern technological age? Is it dead or has it merely morphed into something that may not be recognizable by pre-industrial age standards? Did the women’s liberation movement kill it or the instant gratification expectations that have developed over the past thirty years? Is romance dead or is it alive and well?
I am kind of nostalgic, a romantic at heart and would like to see the return of old school romance. Now I am not advocating the return to the prudish and oppressive mentality of the earlier centuries. What I miss are the romantic correspondences, the flirting games, the nuance and subtlety that comes with delaying sexual gratification which is ultimately sensual and can lead to more passion when that special moment finally arrives.
For many modern Earth dwellers of the working class there is no time nor energy left in most days for authentic romance. It takes preparation and thought to create a truly romantic scenario. Money varies, many thoughtful interactions can occur without a large monetary investment. Because of the need for prep work the prospects of romance becomes lessened after the age of thirty when commitments, obligations and possibly children come into the mix. These same challenges are also great opportunities to be romantic and to practice those fun little games of love.
There is great potential for romance in this day and age. We can take all the best from history the ages, give it a little mix of current knowledge and apply it to our relationships. Compliments, smiles, simple trinkets and correspondences ,snail mail kind with stationary or a card or a text when the moment calls for it, gives spice to life and makes it fun and interesting to be alive.
What can you do to add more spice and romance to your world?